Showing posts with label teens. Show all posts
Showing posts with label teens. Show all posts

Monday, April 20, 2009

Wow, I can't think of a title for this post!!

Well, I took the kids to the movies this weekend. Turned out that Meg's guy couldn't go. His birthday is today and his parents had planned on celebrating with him over the weekend. So, I ended up taking my son and his girlfriend (who seems to be sweet and cute and polite, yay!), both my little sisters and my little cousin Brent. Along with hubby, that took up all the seats in my SUV, so the younger of hubbies girls and her boyfriend came along in her truck. It was quite a group! The kids saw Fast and Furious (I felt comfy not being in there with them since the 16 year old was seeing that movie and offered to keep an eye out) and hubby and I saw 17 again. It was definitely worth seeing. Boy, if I were 17 again, I'd have quite a thing for that little Zack Efron!
Yesterday it started out raining and then it rained some more, but by late afternoon and evening it had decided to rain, so we ended up spending the entire day inside. Except for hubby who mistook one 10-minute, rain-free period for a sign that it was time to mow. He gets my tenacious award for the weekend since he refused to stop mowing just because it started raining again. I would guess he mowed 2.5 out of 3 acres in pouring rain. The yard really did look great this morning, though!
I hope you all had a great weekend and are looking forward to an even better week! Now I have to get caught up on your blogs!!

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Teen Dating....or THESE KIDS ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!

My mom is not what you would call a good mom. If she were an animal, my sisters and I wouldn't be here now because mother is the type who would have eaten her young. Top it off with a big ole bout of alchoholism and you can see what I'm dealing with.
So, there are 20 years between me and the next sibling (we'll call her Meg since that's her nickname) who is now 14 and 22 years between me and the last (we'll call her Leon since that's her nickname) who is now 12. Just throwing out those numbers incase you're bad at math.
Sadly, mother's poor view of the world causes her to try and tear everyone else down with phrases including the words fat ass, dumb ass, lazy ass (apparently she's obsessed with ass). I had recently noticed that my 14 year old sister was displaying some of the classic signs of low self esteem (which will happen when your own mother spends her days yelling various ass names at you), so I decided last weekend to have a long talk with Meg (and Leon for good measure).
The talk included boys, sex, alcohol, good decisions/bad decisions, self-worth, a brief excerpt from my husband and his male point of view, some funny and not so funny stories from my youth, boys, sex, proper cell phone use, consequences to bad decisions, boys and sex. Then I covered my opinion of why mom treats us the way she does (low self esteem also). That may have been a mistake, since the second mom walked into my house to pick up the girls, Meg informed mom that she, too had low self esteem. I'm hoping Meg forgot and didn't bring it back up lest my head end up on a platter...
Meg seemed to really understand the talk, which calmed my nerves a bit because she was most definitely headed down a bad path and I want her to avoid that path as if it's the plague.
Anyway, part of the issue was based on my mother's point of view that noone should date until they are 16 - which only caused me to sneak around and was having the same effect on Meg. Don't get me wrong. I love the idea of not dating until you are 16, but when you are growing up in a house with no attention (except negative), you WILL seek attention elsewhere.
After a long talk with my mother (and the point of this whole entry), I am taking my son and his girlfriend and Meg and her new young beau (who seems to be a really great, family oriented kid) on a triple date to a movie with me and the hubby this weekend. I guess I will sit in front of them but in the same theater. Or maybe go to the next theater and watch a different movie. I JUST DON'T KNOW!!! Wish me luck!